Why do I need the gay community? My life is complete. I have a family. I have friends. I have work. And I have my love. That she's a woman I see as incidental. To me it almost seems like a non-issue.
So why do I need the gay community? To be the honest, I don't experience a need for one. Perhaps this is because, here in the Netherlands, I feel fully accepted for who I am and this includes my sexual preference.
When I first told my sisters that I was in love, two of them said, "Woman or man?". It's not a coincidence that they named "woman" first; they expected it to be a woman. Which I found very strange. I expect they knew before I did about my interest in woman. In retrospect it's not that strange, as I have a preference for: female bands, female athletes, actresses. I had convinced myself that this was merely a form of feminism. To me, this was just who I was and not necessarily an indication of my sexuality. If you knew how many dating agencies I had exhausted trying to find a male partner I was remotely attracted to, you would laugh.
But when I did fall in love, and it was with a woman, it seemed completely natural to both me and my friends and family - my community.
Why the need to distinguish ourselves? I haven't really answered this question for myself.
I would be interested in hearing your answers to this question.
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